Being a nomad in this no man’s land isn’t always death, despair and sorrow. It also has treasures, and magical life changing encounters. That’s exactly how I’d describe my encounter with my Mosy. As it turned out, we were both most battered and wounded. We immediately became each other’s good Samaritan.
Throughout all my life I’ve never come across another human being for whom I’ve had such admiration. We met each other online, through a popular general social media platform. We’ve been talking and exchanging without ever meeting in person. That was two years ago. He's the one who named me: Ikigai.
I only thought it fitting that I should speaking to him and about him publicly for it is my firm belief that men of his caliber should be given a platform and an opportunity to be the counterbalance and the way forward: Men who have struggled, men who have overcome, men who are vulnerable. Men who display gallantry and a heart of a true lion.
Only one other male figure has been able to live up to this ideal. The person I will make brief reference to is the actor Dwayne Johnson. I truly admire his role in the Fast and Furious saga HOBBS and SHAW. We see a male figure, in all his physical muscular glory, but yet he is too ashamed to ask for forgiveness, to humbly apologise, make amends and say I LOVE YOU. This is also what makes Mosy, my personal all time action hero.
So here is what Mosy has to say:
1) Would you care to tell us something about yourself?
I go by Mosy Ayo. I am 42yo, father of three blessings and live with my partner….
Something about myself… it is difficult to say something about myself: I guess that I have grown in the last few years, emotionally I’d say. I have been immature and shallow but a very near break up and a nervous breakdown made me realise that I am important, and if I don’t do it for me, who will?
2) How do you identify? e.g. Cismale/masculine/heterosexual
I am what I can say fluid, pansexual, bi-curious…
I am identified as a heterosexual man, but I like both woman and man. I am attracted by individual’s intelligence and how a conversation can evolve around the table. The rest comes with the trust I can give and receive.
3) How would you describe your life being a man?
Like any other heterosexual male in society, I have been privilege of the entitlements that are offered out there. Although as Black man, which I am proud of and wouldn’t change anything, has their challenges, which we know. Bullying, Trauma and frustration have been part of my life.
But like I said, I wouldn’t change for anything!
Having the way that see the society and how I represent myself at my age, if I could take some advice when I was younger, that I would because it would make me a better Black man.
4) How do you see the role of men in today's society?
Today’s society is driven by the digital era where we have grown into and we have seen how the world has evolved. Everything today is so fast, it takes second to know that something happened in the other side of the world.
But Men today haven’t evolved as much as women have. Women are reclaiming their time now, and rightly so, Men now have become spectators of the rise of feminism and other gender identities out there.
5) What would you say is your greatest fear?
My greatest fear is to bury my own children. That would destroy me!
6) What would you consider to be your greatest desire?
My greatest desire… I think I would like to travel around the world for 5 years meeting new people and have adventures and experiences, but end up on a location where is sunny and calm and spend my the rest of life there.
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7) If you could advocate for something. What would it be?
I don’t know what I could advocate for. There is so much hate out there, unfortunately, that you come to a point where you constantly doubt about your reasons for and if it making an impact.
But saying that…
I like the Black gay community; maybe I would go to support them.
Or support the Black sex-workers… artists, I don’t know. We are a small thing in this galaxy, but there is so much to give and support….